Self-Love in Relationships
Balancing self-love and a healthy relationship is very important for your own inner peace. It’s so easy to get caught up in codependency in a relationship, especially if you do not love yourself. Although loving yourself is a journey on its own and does not happen overnight, balancing the relationship you have with yourself while in a relationship with another person should be a top priority. In my opinion, I believe relationships cannot be strong if there is a lack of self-love in both parties. Here’s my take on balancing self-love in your relationship.
Whether you are in a relationship or not, self-love is very necessary. As humans, we have a few relationships that are important and need care. Romantic relationships, friendships, and family relationships allow us to connect with others through love and the experiences we share with them. However, people tend to forget that the relationship we share with ourselves not only exists but is most important. Think of the relationships you have as a house. Your relationship with your friends, family, and lovers acts as the wood, roof, and other finishing touches of the house. What holds all of these pieces together? The foundation. Let the relationship that you have with yourself act as the foundation of all of your relationships. If a house didn’t have its foundation, it would fall apart. The same thing goes for you and your relationships, your relationships with others will fall apart if you don’t have a strong foundation within your own.
Starting from scratch can be rough when trying to get back into your self-love journey. Even if you are restarting from a point where you once did have love with yourself, loving a version of yourself that exists in the present moment is what matters. It all begins with boundaries. Learning to set boundaries with yourself and with others will balance out your mentality. Spending time with yourself is really important. Making time for others is important in order to maintain relationships; the same thing goes for yourself. The relationship you have with yourself will not be healthy and maintained if you don’t make time for yourself. It is important to learn to nurture this relationship more. It also goes to say that loving yourself will help you surround yourself with good people. Without self-love, you may allow people into your inner circle that does not bring out the best in you. Unfortunately, there are people who will take advantage of your insecurity in order to build themselves up. This is another reason why maintaining healthy self-love in all of your relationships is important, so you do not allow people into your life that will damage your inner peace.
Self-love is an endless journey. With the right balance, you will be able to maintain the relationship with yourself while maintaining relationships with the people you love.